Help! It Hurts When I Have Sex
Dyspareunia is the term for recurring pain in the genitals or within the pelvic area before, during, or after sex. The pain can be felt externally, on the vulva, or internally in the vagina, uterus, or pelvis. Many cases are due to underlying medical conditions or infections, which are usually treated by identifying and addressing those conditions or infections.
Pain during sex is one of the most common gynecologic problems doctors treat. It affects 10%-20% of people in the United States at some point in their lives, and it affects women more than men.
At Serrano OB/GYN Associates in Serrano, Texas, Dr. Christopher Serrano and his staff diagnose and treat many of the underlying conditions that lead to chronic pelvic pain and dyspareunia. If you’re struggling with sex-related pain, here’s what you need to know.
What causes dyspareunia?
In women, pain during sex can occur if you have one or more of the following conditions:
- Vaginal atrophy: vaginal lining loses moisture and thickness and becomes dry, thin, and inflamed; from medication, menopause, or other hormonal changes
- Vaginal infections: common genital infections, including yeast
- Problems with the cervix (opening to the uterus): can cause pain during deep penetration
- Problems with the uterus: includes fibroid growths that can cause deep intercourse pain
- Endometriosis: endometrium (tissue lining the uterus) grows outside the uterus, leading to pain and pressure
- Problems with the ovaries: includes ovarian cysts
- Pelvic inflammatory disease (PID): tissues deep within the pelvis become badly inflamed; the pressure of intercourse causes deep pain
- Ectopic pregnancy: fertilized egg develops outside of the uterus
- Intercourse too soon after surgery or childbirth
- Sexually transmitted infections (STIs): include genital warts, herpes sores, or other common STIs
- Vulvodynia: chronic pain in the vulvar area
- Injury to the vulva or vagina: a tear from childbirth or a cut (episiotomy) in the perineum (area of skin between the vagina and the anus) made during labor
- Psychological issues: anxiety, depression, post-traumatic stress disorder from abuse, and low self-esteem can prevent sexual arousal and cause pain during sex
In men, pain may occur from lack of lubrication, penile disorders, or STIs.
Dyspareunia symptoms
Depending on what’s causing your pain, you may feel:
- Sharp pain during penetration
- Deep pain during thrusting
- Throbbing or aching after intercourse
- Pain that burns
- Pelvic cramping
- Muscle tightness or spasms
The most common symptom is pain that occurs at the vaginal opening or deep within the pelvis. It can be distinct only in one area or affect the entire genital region.
What it doesn’t usually cause is bleeding. Any bleeding during intercourse is likely caused by the same underlying medical issue as the pain.
Treating painful sex
What treatment you get depends in large part on what underlying medical condition is causing your pain. Some treatments don’t require medical intervention, such as in the case of painful intercourse after pregnancy. Wait a minimum of six weeks after childbirth before attempting intercourse, and practice gentleness and patience.
Where pain results from tissue dryness, try water-based lubricants. Some women find it helpful to proactively apply a water-based lubricant to the vagina, vulva, and labia. You should also probably stop using vaginal perfumes, bubble baths, or scented sanitary pads and toilet paper; they make the dryness worse and cause irritation.
Some treatments require prescription medication. If vaginal dryness is the result of menopause, ask Dr. Serrano about estrogen creams, tablets, or other medications. Bacterial STIs require antibiotics, while some virus-caused STIs require antivirals. Other causes of painful sex may also require specific prescription medications.
For cases where there’s no apparent underlying medical cause, you may find sexual therapy helpful. Some things it can help with include unresolved guilt, inner conflicts about the act of sex, or lingering feelings regarding past abuse.
There are several things you can do yourself to manage the pain you feel during or after sex:
- Try sexual activities or positions that don’t cause pain
- Take over-the-counter pain relievers before sex
- Try to relax and de-stress before having sex
- Apply ice packs to the vulva after sex
The recovery time for dyspareunia varies considerably, depending on the underlying cause of the pain and the length of treatment.
Sex shouldn’t be a painful experience, so if you’re having symptoms, you should come into Serrano OB/GYN Associates for an evaluation to determine the underlying cause. Call the office at 210-761-5308, or book online with us today.